遠距離恋愛は絶対上手くいかない!!

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恋愛には様々な形があり、どれも簡単ではありません。その中でも遠距離恋愛は特に難しいと、Junkoが自分の経験を振り返って話してくれました!

There are many different types of relationships, and none of them can be said to be easy. Long distance relationships are especially difficult, according to Junko who talks about her past experiences.


Having lived in three different countries throughout my life, so far, I have had my share of the wonders of long distant relationships, also known as LDRs. I will be basing this off of my own personal experiences, here is what I think of them.

私は今のところ3カ国に住んだ事があり、遠距離恋愛、またはLDR、の素晴らしい経験も、そりゃあります。これは全て私個人の経験から判断してますが、遠距離恋愛についてこう思います。

They absolutely do not work.

絶対上手く行きません。

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http://www.indipepper.com/bidisha-dasgupta/10-tips-maintain-long-distance-relationship/

I have had a total of three relationships with my partner living on the other side of the world as me. The first one was when I was in high school and I moved from Oregon to China. That one ended quickly because technology wasn’t a strong suite for him and communication quickly dissipated.

合計で私は遠距離恋愛を3回経験し、毎回相手は私とは地球の反対側に住んでます。最初は高校生のときで、私がオレゴンから中国へ引っ越したときです。これはすぐに終わりましたね、なぜならテクノロジーが苦手だったので、コミュニケーションが早い段階で途切れてしまいました。

The second LDR was after my first year in college. He moved back to Korea to finish his degree. I was skeptical about the distance after having it failed in the past. Unlike the first ex, he knew how to utilize technology, so communication wasn’t a large issue. However, the major time difference did cause some problems. He also wanted me to move to Korea to be with him, and I had no plans to move to Korea, especially at the age 19. I could not see a future between us, which led to the end of our relationship.

2回目の遠距離恋愛は大学1年生のときでした。彼は大学を卒業する為に韓国へ戻りました。そのときはもうすでに遠距離恋愛が上手くいかなかった経験があったので、あまり乗り気ではなかったです。だけど、元カレと違ってテクノロジーの使い方もちゃんと理解していたので、コミュニケーションは問題なかったです。ですが、かなりズレてる時差の影響で問題が発生しました。その上、彼は私が韓国に来て欲しくて、でも私は韓国に引っ越す意思もなかったのです。19歳の頃の私は特に。

The third LDR fail was after my year in Osaka. I moved back to Texas while he stayed in Japan. He wasn’t the talkative type, and by this point, I was very pessimistic about long distant relationships. I gave up quite quickly when it became apparent that communication would be minimal between us. Although we lasted until I moved to Tokyo, our relationship had been distant, with him being in Osaka. Neither of us had plans to move to each other’s city, and I just couldn’t see the point in continuing a relationship where so little communication was present.

3回目の失敗遠距離恋愛は大阪から戻ってきたときです。私はテキサスに戻り、彼は日本に残りました。彼は無口で、この時点で私は遠距離恋愛に対する気持ちがすでにネガティブでした。これからもコミュニケーションが少ないと判断したとき、私は結構早い段階で諦めてました。それでも私が東京に引っ越すまで付き合ってました。だけど私が東京にいても彼はまだ大阪にいて、距離が縮まっただけです。どちらも引っ越す意思がなかったので、コミュニケーションもなかったので私には2人の将来が全く見えなかったです。

http://marcellapurnama.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/21-things-ive-learned-about-long-distance-relationship.jpg

http://marcellapurnama.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/21-things-ive-learned-about-long-distance-relationship.jpg

Communication is a necessity in any relationship, but I believe that it is even more vital when larger distances lay between the two people pursuing a shared life together. Improper communication leads to suspicion, jealousy, or the insecurity that the other doesn’t care about you.

遠距離恋愛にとってはコミュニケーションはかなり重要で、距離が遠ければ遠いほど、将来を築き上げるには重要です。ちゃんと取らないと疑いや、嫉妬、それと相手がちゃんと自分を想ってないと不安になる可能性が高いです。

Unless there are plans in the future of the two being in the same place, I personally don’t see the point in having a long distant relationship. Why invest in a relationship when the two of you don’t have plans to be physically in the same location, that isn’t a vacation?

将来一緒に住む予定がなければ、個人的に遠距離恋愛をする意味がないと思います。なぜ、旅行以外に一緒にいる予定がないのに遠距離恋愛にこんなに思いを込めるの?

I have seen some relationships work, but this usually ended with one partner moving to where the other is, getting married and settling down. That is the only time I have ever seen them succeed. Distance can also destroy the relationships and marriages of even the strongest couples. But that is a much darker topic, so I will save that for another time.

上手くいく遠距離恋愛も見たことあります、でもそれはどちらかが相手の居場所に引っ越して、結婚して、落ち着きます。それ以外成功したとこを見たことないです。距離はもうすでに関係が築いてある恋人や夫婦、深い絆のあるカップルでも破れちゃいます。でもそれはより暗い話になるので、また今度にしておきます。

http://whoshouldimarry.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/1354758073_5081_longdistance.jpg

http://whoshouldimarry.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/09/1354758073_5081_longdistance.jpg

What do you think of long distant relationships?
Have you ever been in one?

遠距離恋愛をどう思います?
したことあります?

~Junko~